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What is going on here? Have all of the "good men" blown away? Personally, I would like to offer an alternative hypothesis—one where women have been put in a very unfulfilling double-bind. I would like to posit that cultural and biological factors have been pitted at odds, leaving women in a "no win situation" most of the time in modern life. Attraction —feeling appeal, allure, and motivation to pursue and choose a partner. Attachment —feelings of bonding around sharing a home, parental duties, mutual defense, safety, and security. Each of these types of love can have very different origins and be independently expressed for different people.
For example, one woman might find that she lusts after her partner, is attracted to him, and securely attached perhaps that is the ideal. Another woman might lust after one man, be attracted to a second, and feel comfortable and attached to her partner only. These differences in who we lust after, are attracted to, and feel an attachment towards, arise because each feeling has an independent origin. Lust and attraction are often more deep-seated, primal, and uncontrolled feelings. Usually, it is impossible to "choose" to be turned on or attracted to a partner.
These feelings are more likely elicited automatically from certain cues in a partner. For women, those attractive male cues may include physical attractiveness, social status, economic resources, ambition, industriousness, stability, and intelligence Buss, Attachment, however, can often be more of a conscious choice. It is possible to "decide" who to share a home with, how to divide parental duties, and pick someone particular based on safety criteria. Therefore, attachment decisions are often more greatly influenced by social norms and cultural practices. Think of the "wish list" some women have for the perfect partner. The Modern Dilemma Here again, I posit that at least some of women's frustration in modern dating can be explained through a double-bind.
Let us look at this idea in more detail. Socially, today's woman is encouraged, empowered and perhaps expected to do it all. This, in itself, often causes extreme stress for the "super woman" and "super mom. It is a tall order. It is also an order that requires women to be intelligent, motivated, powerful, and in control. Given those social instructions, women are motivated to "choose" men for how well they mesh with their life plan, goals, and ideals. Essentially then, some women choose to "attach" to men who are cooperative, agreeable, supportive, and often take their lead in areas the woman finds important.
From a cultural standpoint, men who are categorized as "disagreeable," "opinionated," or expect women to "acquiesce" may be considered unappealing as "attachment" partners. Men often define these women along evolutionary psychology lines—women who are sexually-selective, faithful, physically attractive, and have a pleasant, respectful disposition for more on these qualities, see Buss, and my own articles here and here. Unfortunately, these qualities are again part of women's double bind, with social norms sometimes guiding them away from these biologically feminine characteristics.
So, until a new equilibrium is reached in these evolving social norms, men have difficult choices to make. Essentially, they seem to have to either appease social norms for relationships and acceptance or evolved standards of attractiveness and get sexual fulfillment. Furthermore, they do so in a situation where women's own social instruction may reduce the very characteristics that many of these men desire. Given that, many men sit on the couch, plug in a video game, and opt out—just as Behaviorism and Skinner might predict. What Some Men Do About It Men have adapted and devised a number of strategies to make the best of these difficult options, including the following: These are the guys who are often labeled "players", "macks", and "pick-up artists".
With this strategy, men are often able to fulfill their short-term sexual needs—especially within the modern, socially-sanctioned climate of "hook-ups" and causal encounters. In fact, many of these men are former virgins and "nice guys" who previously could not get their physical needs addressed. Many of these tactics, however, primarily attract women who are focused on short-term flings with attractive men No relationships or drama just simple clean fun wanted tonight in jeremie here. Therefore, the relationship needs of the men using this strategy may be less fulfilled in the long run. These men often find relationships more easily. However, men who follow this strategy should pick their partner carefully.
Men successful with this strategy attempt to find an honest and faithful partner, who respects their needs, and is grateful for their contributions for more, see herehereand here. Again though, men pursuing this strategy also report the need to stay vigilant for their partner's waning attractionsigns of cheating, and being taken for granted much as women in "traditional" relationships do. With divorce a very real and punishing possibility, these men may also choose to think carefully before committing. They invest in their own attractiveness, value, and success. They also treat partners equitably according to their behavior, worth, and contributions to the relationship.
These men further qualify and screen partners well, not selling themselves short for less than they deserve. This approach takes constant effort though—both in the man maintaining his own standards, and in his motivating and inspiring others to do so too. It also requires patience in searching for someone who can live up to those desired standards. However, these efforts are often met with a partner who is attracted to them, respectful, and attractive for them too. For more on that approach see hereherehereand here. Essentially, these are the guys who have been frustrated and punished to the point that they see no further incentive to relate. Rather than spending their efforts on material success to attract a partner, they focus on making themselves happy.
Although these guys are often socially-shamed as "not growing up", in fact, they are arguably just reacting to the lack of outside motivation Conclusion We are in a very difficult time in history right now. It is a social flux period, where many men and women are not satisfied socially and biologically. Outside of traditional and religious areas, or very progressive arrangements, the majority of men and women are struggling. They are caught between conflicting social demands and biological motivations.
Until something changes, the best we can all do is adapt and find our own, unique way.